Got Problems? Sex, Love, and Relationship advice from SuicideGirls Team Agony


Got Problems? Sex, Love and Relationship Advice From SuicideGirls’ Team Agony

Submitted by SG_Blog

Edited by nicole_powers

by SG’s Team Agony feat. Friskey and Tita
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Let us answer life’s questions – because great advice is even better when it comes from SuicideGirls.



[Tita in West Coast]

Q: I’ve been with this guy for two years. We are now in a long distance relationship, but I’m at the point where I don’t know if we are still together. I get a call or a text message every couple of weeks. He’s 4 hours away from me. I was supposed to go with him, but he wanted me to leave my job and my family. He now wants to move closer, but has to come here to get stuff I’m keeping for him. Do I hold on to him or go my own way and see what else is out there?

A: First things first. Do you wish you heard from him more? If so, it’s perfectly acceptable for you to ask for what you want and deserve. At this point you don’t seem to be getting either. Additionally, only hearing from your mate every couple of weeks, sometimes only in text form, is not enough to sustain a relationship. People in long distance relationships have to work twice as hard to nurture their bond, and keep the fire burning.

How often do you contact him? Do you feel able to text or call him as you wish? If you are trying to contact him and your attempts are going unheard, it is a good indication that things are winding down.

Remember those early days of the relationship when you couldn’t wait to hear from each other? Remember when you would get butterflies just thinking of him? Remember when you wondered what the other person was doing and when you would get to see each other again? What happened to those days?

No one said long distance is easy. There is want, and need, and day to day things that you can’t share with each other. You can’t kiss or touch, and it literally hurts to miss someone like that. However, you can still be invested in each other’s lives.

This is 2011. This is the time of tablets and computers, FaceBook and FaceTime, smart phones and smarter users! My grandparents were separated by war for 5 years, but were still as in love and connected via letters and telegrams, as they were during their courtship. Long distance or long term, the spark should never go out. Not on your end and not on his.

If you can remedy the current state of your communication, there may be hope for you. If not, I wouldn’t wait for him to move closer. If the draw towards each other is no longer enough to run home each night and race to the phone, it might already be too late.

Best wishes!

*Besos*

Tita

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